“Adoption carries the added dimension of connection not only to our own tribe but beyond, widening the scope of what constitutes love, ties, and family. It is the larger embrace.” – Isabella Rossellini
Writing this … takes me all the way back … to my beginning.
I am a Cradle Baby, a Class of 1972 Alumnus.
I recently attended the second annual Cradle Alumni Reunion. The sense of belonging was very powerful and, so much unbroken, free-flowing, effortless sharing was done in an environment of complete inclusion and trust. A common thread among the stories was a robust and genuine sense of gratitude. Especially, in the context of Birthmothers knowing that their babies grew up to a good life in a loving environment.
Another very palpable element was hope. Not all alumni had a positive experience when reconnecting to their Birthparents and families. Yet, they still approached a labyrinthine scenario with such forward looking energy and courage.
Twenty years ago, my family and I attended The Cradle Open House. Later that year, through The Cradle, I was contacted by my Birthmother. We exchanged letters over an eighteen-month period.
I attended The Cradle Gala that Winter (1999). I shared my story with a ten-top table full of, until then, complete strangers. One question to me was, “What would be the first thing that you would say to your Birthmother if the two of you ever met?”
My reply, “Thank you.”
It was not until attending the Alumni Reunion, twenty years later, that I really thought about … well, “the larger embrace” and “the added dimension of connection” and, how these concepts have tied into what I’ve done over my career as well as with my time “away from the office”.
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In addition to a very heartfelt and moving presentation by Lorri Antosz Benson, there was a raffle. I won a pair of tickets to Dear Evan Hansen. My Daughter and I attended the show and, in a soon to come post, I will share a very, very moving experience within an evening fully enjoyed.
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